I remember hearing others judgements get back to me, after I started getting out and living life again. I however, chose to IGNORE them. I had to. It still hurt me, but I felt if people were placing judgement on me, they obviously had some issues of their own to work through. I found it unfair. How could they even begin to understand the pain I was going through? Why would they even feel the need to judge me? People can just be cruel and insecure within themselves.
I’m thankful that even to this day, if people place judgement, I think brush it off because I am right with myself. I will someday face the ultimate judgement for my time here on earth and how I chose to serve God, myself and others. I sure have yet to find a perfect person in this world. I have met a small select few that have come close, but ultimately each one of us is imperfect. I am doing my best to be true to myself, and seeing that through my shortcomings I am worthy of forgiveness. Ultimately, my life experiences, my loss and my failures have lead me to my growth and the person I have always wanted to be. People don’t have to get me, because I get myself! Just like, people don’t have to get you, because you get yourself. I’m not seeking anyone’s approval, but my own! I challenge you to also do the same.
I want to serve others and inspire woman and men who are going through hard times, to cut out the things in their lives that no longer serve them. I want to teach others to open up their mind to the life they want revealed and restored! The reward is always worth the risk and even if we fall or fail, we likely have learned something new and valuable about ourselves and maybe just maybe that failure lead to the best thing that was meant to be. So, today dream up what’s next for yourself, believe it and aspire to taking that first step. Remember judgement is toxic! Remove the toxic and the things that dont serve you and your purpose.
Tanya Smith is a remarried widow, mom, business woman, blogger, and widow advocate. In 2016 Tanya started the A Widows World blog where she shares her eleven year perspective and experience in widowhood.
At the age of 26, Tanya became a young widow. For a time, motion was at a standstill, but it came back in full force and gave her so much clarity and tenacity to take on things, to live life with no bounds. This tenacity has opened many doors, inspired new adventures, and forced her out of her comfort zone. She has a heart to serve and her message is one of hope through the dark and devastation.
Tanya has been featured as a Woman of Strength in Glancer Magazine, a Chicagoland publication, and has been a guest speaker on several podcasts and live radio shows such as the LifeBeats Project Podcast series, Feeling Fabulous Podcast, 108 Praise Radio and more – sharing her story and how to get to a place where you can see the beauty in your brokenness.
Recent Feeling Fabulous Podcast - http://www.feelingfabulouspodcast.com/entrepreneur/17-interview-with-tanya-smith/
Episode – Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable and beginning again after loss to find the beauty in the broken spaces of your life | with Tanya Smith of A Widow’s World (TLBP #64) https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/lifebeats-project-briana-johnson/id1088514723?mt=2.
Tanya Smith, is also the President of Addelise Inc. a Marketing and Branding company. She is an experienced business executive with over 10+ years of focused business development, brand development, marketing, sales strategies, corporate event planning and social media development. Tanya, has successfully implemented sales and marketing strategies for major corporations and has effectively increased revenue by 50% for a multi-million dollar firm in her professional career. Tanya, is an entrepreneur; mother, remarried widow, lover of life and helping others achieve their dreams.
It has been on her heart to find a very accepting Widows Community where she can call home. She is proud and humbled to be a part of the Hope for Widows Foundation Board of Directors and sisterhood, growing, reaching and fostering connection and inspiration – so that no widow feels left behind.